Reawakening Breast Sensuality for Mothers

There’s a piece of my Maidenhood I used to long for as a nursing mother.

I missed my plump and perky breasts. Not just their shape, but their radiant sensual energy. My nipples had always been my gateway to arousal. However, after giving birth to my son in 2016, their existence became more utilitarian in my eyes, and I completely shut down my connection to the innate pleasure pathways within my breasts. My son never took a bottle and absolutely looooved “yum-yums,” more so than your average babe. In fact, he showed no interest in eating food until he was well over 3.  To be a “good mom,” I believed this was my duty to keep nursing around the clock, while trying to be patient as I long awaited his interest in food to arrive. 

The truth is, I was tapped out and completely drained (pun intended). I didn’t admit it to myself then. I was too deep in my martyrdom/Savior complex and don’t think I could have seen how much Shakti I was leaking as I clung to these all-too-common motherhood archetypes. Soon my breasts even became “off limits” to my husband while we made love. Sigh. I had unknowingly built some impenetrable armor around my heart.

One year after my son’s last sip, I was pregnant with my daughter. My breasts immediately swelled alongside my womb, vibrantly pulsing with new life.

This time around, I made a vow to myself and to my breasts that I would not let our sensual connection be severed again. I didn’t know what this would look like while nursing. Would I be turned-on? The thought made me uncomfortable.

Then it dawned on me. Nursing is SUPPOSED to be PLEASURABLE and perhaps even ORGASMIC. Some may consider this taboo, but it’s a simple truth in my eyes. It’s how we’re designed. One of the greatest tragedies of our time is how our culture has severed birth and breastfeeding from their earthy sexual roots. Breast-feeding is a part of women’s sexual experience. The love hormones that course through our circuitry is PURE SHAKTI and is there to help us arise to the high demands of Motherhood.

While nursing my daughter, I stayed open to the pleasure, allowing the circuitry to flow freely while making a conscious effort to not shut it down. I worked closely with the energetics of my heart-womb, actively clearing and renewing this sacred twin relationship. 

This past December, after 6.5 years, my nursing journey came to its completion when I weened my daughter. Over the years, I’ve spoken to many mothers who have shared similar experiences with having shut-down pleasure in the nipples and breasts, from being hypersensitive to completely numbed out. Long after their nursing career has ended, they still feel “touched out” or closed off to the pleasure circuitry.

To the Mothers who feel disconnected from your breasts: Please know that ecstatic states of bliss are available no matter what your age, nursing, or post-weening. Denying this sacred sensual pleasure, which is your birth rite, blocks the divine flow of Shakti. Your radiant breasts are potent portals to the cosmic gateways of the Womb and are ready to flow with ecstasy and bliss.

Through energetic transmission, breath work, visualization medicine, and trauma-informed self-massage techniques, we can integrate and awaken the breasts once again.